Understanding Love Bombing

Understanding Love Bombing

We've all been there, but do you know what it looks like, or did you even know there was a name for this behavior? Do you know how to handle these situations? 

Love bombing is a manipulative tactic often used in relationships where one person overwhelms another with excessive affection, attention, and gifts to gain control or influence. The aim is to make the recipient feel special and dependent on the love bomber, creating a sense of obligation and emotional attachment. Once the person is hooked, the love bomber may gradually reduce their affection and become controlling or abusive. This tactic is commonly associated with narcissistic personality disorder and other manipulative behaviors. 

Recognizing love bombing can help you protect yourself from potentially manipulative or unhealthy relationships. Here are some signs to watch out for:

  1. Excessive Attention and Affection: They shower you with constant praise, flattery, and affection right from the start.
  2. Over-the-Top Gifts: They give extravagant gifts early in the relationship, even if it feels premature or out of proportion to the stage of your relationship.
  3. Rapid Pace: They push for a fast-moving relationship, wanting to commit quickly and talking about a future together almost immediately.
  4. Constant Contact: They bombard you with texts, calls, and messages, wanting to be in constant communication and knowing your every move.
  5. Isolation: They may try to isolate you from friends and family, subtly or overtly, so they can have more control over you.
  6. Dependency Creation: They make you feel like you can't live without them, often expressing that you are their everything and they need you.
  7. Intense Flattery: They often say things like, "I've never met anyone like you" or "You're perfect for me" early in the talking stage and/or relationship.
  8. Inconsistent Behavior: Once they feel they have you hooked, their behavior might change dramatically. They might become less attentive, more critical, or even controlling.
  9. Guilt Tripping: If you try to set boundaries or slow things down, they may make you feel guilty or accuse you of not caring about them.
  10. Lack of Respect for Boundaries: They disregard your boundaries and push for more time and attention than you're comfortable giving.

If you notice these signs, taking a step back and evaluating the relationship is important. Speaking with a trusted friend, you can book with me, or a therapist to provide you with perspective and support. 


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